Dating someone older than you
And I've added a couple of my own tips for good measure, since I am the younger woman and all. And I've added a couple of my own tips for good measure, since I am the younger woman and all. DON' T point out how "cute" his first grey chest hair is (OOPS). But I've been watching New Girl and compiled a list of DOs and DON' Ts from Jess's experience dating the sophisticated Dermot Mulroney as Fancypants, who's a whopping twelve years older. But I've been watching and compiled a list of DOs and DON' Ts from Jess's experience dating the sophisticated Dermot Mulroney as Fancypants, who's a whopping twelve years older.Going up a few (or many) years on the dating scene will not only expand your options, but it might even introduce you to someone who feels like a better fit. "What you need to do is to ask yourself what it is that you want out of a relationship and let that be your guide," psychologist and radio host Dr. "There are many older men and women who are chronologically older and yet do not have the social, emotional, intellectual, or intimate maturity you are looking for.So signs that you need 'maturity' or 'experience' are probably a better way to figure out if you need someone different."If you feel disappointed by everyone's antics online, or struggle to find common ground with younger coworkers, maturity may be just what you need. It's not like a guy who's five years older than you is going to be taking you out for the Denny's early bird special ever day before promptly going to bed, but odds are those 5 a.m. We can still drink people under the table, we just don't want to do it at some crappy, crowded dive bar. We don't want to be shoving our way through a bunch of sweaty people to get them. You're going to hear stories about "the old days" and wonder why we aren't as fun anymore. Maybe just one shot of whiskey instead of seven of vodka. Don't try and get us to do acid again just because you want to see if we can recreate the time we went to Bonnaroo 10 years ago. Yeah, we might also have emotional baggage, but the more time we've had to date around, the more we know what we like and (hopefully) how to avoid making the same mistakes we made previously.
Although, I call J "Kid" in this super-cute, ironic way. Whether that's a mature twenty-something, an immature thirty-something, or a quirky lady living with three dudes like Jess. All right, so no one knows what they want, but we've got a job, if not a career, and some money saved up, because we already did that thing where you spend all your money and then have no money. We've learned a lot from our previous relationships. We know what we want out of life, and we're probably not going to change it. Or, you know, some version of whining about your age. With age (often) comes maturity and chivalry—take advantage!Cece even tells Jess as she's first considering dating Russell (the one and only Fancypants) that "he intimidates you because you wouldn't have to take care of him, he'd take care of you."DON' T make your man feel older than he actually is (or date yourself).