Dating someone with a spinal cord injury
" And I wanted to say, "Of course I can, asshole." I seriously can't tell you how many Tinder guys asked me that as soon as I mentioned the wheelchair. " I seriously had to tell him, "I don't think it's going to be changing anytime soon." He just vanished and I was really bummed about it.
After that, a guy I was sexting with on Tinder for a few weeks replied to me casually telling him that I was in a wheelchair with, "Oh. All of that rejection based on being in a wheelchair really messes with your self-confidence.
I was in a car accident when I was 5, when my family and I were coming home from ice skating a couple of days after Christmas, and it resulted in a spinal cord injury, so I've been in a wheelchair for a long time now.
I've usually ended up dating guys who I met in real life and my being in a wheelchair was usually never a problem in my dating life until I started meeting guys on Tinder. A., then moved to Boston for work, and now I live in New York City.
I work in PR and most of my clients are far away and most of them don't know about my disability and I'm happy about that because I want them to expect the same things from me that they would expect from any other publicist.So I felt the same way about my online dating profile.The first Tinder date I went on, I didn't tell the guy that I was disabled before we got together.I really think the way these guys treated me just has a lot to do with the stigma that's attached to being in a wheelchair because so many people look at you and they automatically assume certain things.I thought that by trying to let people get to know me before they got to knew I was in a wheelchair was a good plan, because then they'd see that I'm normal, and I travel by myself and live by myself, but other people won't let you be defined by anything other than being in a wheelchair.