Internet dating icebreakers
It can be hard to know what to say to make sure that you stand out from the horde of their other matches.
Luckily, though, a recent study might have a few answers. The study is part of a meta-analysis complied by scientists from Barts, the London School of Medicine, and the University of North Texas.
Studies found that the icebreakers with the highest response rates were open-ended questions, such as “What did you like in my profile? ” Asking open-ended questions allows your match to choose from many possible answers, and will keep the conversation flowing.
Asking questions with a yes or no answer will just stall the conversation.
“To ease the stress, it’s good to take a screenshot of your date’s profile and review it before you meet for a date," Julie Spira, online dating expert, tells Bustle.Although you and the person have likely been messaging back-and-forth for a while — and have maybe even had a phone call or two — you still need to see if your conversation flows in person. Varsha Mathur, dating and relationship coach at Knowing Luxe Coaching, says to start with a light topic.“Be interested in them and ask questions about the light-hearted stuff, such as how they got into the city or where they found parking,” Mathur tells Bustle.Well, now’s the time to find out which one your date is, David Bennett, counselor and relationship expert with Double Trust Dating, says.“I find that people love discussing pets, and it’s a great way to break the tension — because who doesn’t love discussing cuddly animals who purr, lick you, and walk on your face when you’re sleeping,” he tells Bustle.